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...“I was wrong”. These may be the three hardest words of all to say. The parent who never says them will pay a high price in respect. Anyone who was raised by a ‘never wrong’ mother or father can attest to that. A proud rigidity did not make that parent seem taller, only smaller. An unwillingness to admit mistakes or apologize breeds resentment in a child, not respect. Yet tragically, the wounded sons and daughters of invulnerable parents tend to become ‘never wrong’ parents themselves.”

Strategies for apologising to kids...

Source: http://www.pbs.org/parents/talkingwithkids/apologize.html

Apologize for your behavior, not for yourself. You might tell your child, "I've been thinking about what happened and I don't like what I said or did."

Give yourself a momentary time out. You might say, "I'm sorry, I'm not thinking clearly right now. Give me a moment and I'll get back to you."

Ask your child, "What could I have done differently?" Ask her for help in figuring out what to do, and be open to her suggestions. You might say, "Did I make a mess of this?" Kids love to hear parents admit they are wrong.

You might also ask, "What could you have done differently?" In a non-accusatory way, review what occurred. Use this opportunity to discuss what you and your child could do differently next time.

Next time, try joking instead of over-reacting. You might say with a laugh, "Are you going to drive me totally crazy again?"

Remember that no parent is perfect. Think about what provoked your response. Also think about all the good things you do as a parent. Talk to a friend about what happened and find out how she might have handled it.

Think specifically about how you might behave differently next time. What it is about your child's behavior that pushes your buttons? Is there something you can do or say that would change the way you react? You might try taking a deep breath before you speak, or walking out of the room until you figure out how you want to react. Think about this when you're calm: the heat of the moment may not be the time to fix this problem, particularly if it's become a pattern.

Learn from your mistakes - and move on!

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Enrolments 2011
We are currently accepting enrolments in all year levels from Prep to VCE. Places are limited. Please contact our office  to arrange a school tour and to collect our College Information Pack

Special
NEWS

Outstanding VCE results 
Congratulations to our class of 2010 for outstanding results in their VCE. We achieved a pass rate of 100%. All of Heatherton Christian College students who applied for a university position have gained their first preference choice. A special mention to our top achieving academic student, Matthew Vanmidde, who gained an ATAR score of 96.85. Matthew has been accepted into Aerospace Engineering/Science (Double Degree) at Monash University. Matthew also achieved the highest score in Victoria for one of his subjects and has received an acknowledgment award for this special achievement.  Other students to gain university positions of choice include Elizabeth Cliffe (Science at Monash Uni), Sean Madler-Edwards (Digital Media at Swinburne Uni), Abigail Goff (Forensic Psychology/Arts at Swinburne), and Ryan Alexis (Media at Monash Uni). 

We done, 'Class of 2010'! 

WEBSITE UPDATE

This MONTH at HCC.... 

Thursday 27 January
College Office reopens for 2011

Monday 31 January
Teachers are back!

Thursday 3 February 
First Day of School for
all Students P-12

Whole School Assembly, 8.45 am

TERM DATES FOR 2011
Term 1       3 Feb – 8 April
Term 2       27 April – 1 July
Term 3       20 July – 23 Sep
Term 4       10 Oct – 13 Dec